What’s the first thing that pops up your mind when you fail to achieve or accomplish something? Does failure teach anything? The answer is simple. Failing is not good. In other words, it’s terrible.
Of all the things that can happen when you are trying to do something, failure is what you would want the least. Failure will not only destroy the task but also will devastate you. In most cases you will get irritated and would want to kill yourself.
Conclusion? Failing is not good. Stop pretending that you can learn things from being a failure.
We are in the super era of competition where everyone gets stumbled upon once in his or her lifetime. Now people will want to make failing an important part of life and voila! Everybody is failing and sharing their post-failure success story.
The simple reason you cannot learn anything from failure is that because the moment of failure is dreadful. Each lost moment tells a different aspect of yours in the present – when you are lying on the floor crying or being in the bathroom sobbing.
Stop grumbling. Instead of hitting a new level of failure every time to learn things – life hacks, try to learn from other siblings of the word ‘failure’.
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It can teach you a lot more.
What should you do when something happens that you don’t understand? What should you do? Ask questions. Do you ask? Keep asking “Why?” on everything you do. Slowly you will begin to get answers.
A lot of inarguable people claim that Thomas Edison failed for 999 times before he was able to make a light bulb. You now what? It’s all but a big bullshit. It’s normal to have several tries before landing on success, but you see – counting failure isn’t the key, the persistence to keep on doing something is.
I have asked several giants in their respective industry: how do you market your book? How did you make your app popular? The answer they give is highly thought provoking; Write another book. Code another app.
I asked myself “Why would they say such a thing?” I got that the easiest way to get better or be more known or learn refinements of the industry is to simply do it again and again and again until you have reached a milestone.
Importunity coupled with unconditional affection renders abundance.
I was swollen up in regret. I wasn’t able to achieve a set of marks I wanted to or better had a strong desire to.
In other words, I got pissed off. The only word that suited my condition was “failure”.
The moment there is an event in your life labeled as “failure” it is at that exact moment your mind will block further enhancement. You will open an event gallery in your mind and rewind up your life events till the moment of “failure”. You will want to find excuses and will want to run into justifications to satisfy yourself that you learned something from your failure.
Learn the word “forgiveness”. Forgive yourself. Dump the past. Start staying healthy and start being creative again because after all you are you.
When you get a question wrong in an examination, a brilliant student wouldn’t call it a failure.
It’s a pointer that says yes, you did something wrong. You need to re-schedule your plans and work in such a way that you don’t do errors again. Stop recalling the past so much that you end up mugging up the wrong answer.
If you had any connection in sports you would know this. It took me my adulthood to understand a simple thing that sportspersons already understood several years ago.
Coaches do not keep going over and over again a video of athlete performing and say, “This is where you failed.” They say, “Here you should have exerted the weight on the left instead of employing on the right side.”
Let me tell you a story.
Do you know Botvinnik? He was the World Chess Champion back in the 1950s. One fine day, he noticed that he lost chess games to the people who smoked. Rather than putting up on perseverance, he began practice games with people who smoked.
I love his words. He didn’t use to say “I fail against smokers”. Instead, he acknowledged that smokers got him World Chess Champion trophy. You see what’s going on here?
“Failure” isn’t a factor you can learn something worthy from. It’s a deep mark in your body that defines your feelings at that time.
Ditch the easy ones. Hunt for the tough problems and attempt to solve them. Searching for every page on the internet is hard. Google does it better than anyone else out there.
Making an electric car that doesn’t get you electrocuted when you drown it in the river is hard. Tesla Motors does it better than anyone.
Writing a book that touches the heart of millions of people is hard. Probably your last book (like mine) didn’t even cross the 100 sales mark. That’s perfectly ok. Most of the times things like that happen to every other person on the planet. Before jumping into the next step, read a lot of good books – the bestsellers in your category. Reading good books will solve the problem. You will know what makes a book good. You have solved the tough problem here. Now write.
Failure isn’t a hard problem. What’s hard is keeping up the perseverance and will to restart.
When I thought I had failed, instead of being worried about myself what I really was worried about was: would other people think I was a failure?
Yes. Yes, they did.
People will be always be giving opinions about you. You need to learn to not care a bit because 100 years from now they would be entitled to a grave with you and their holy opinions they had of you.
I suddenly stopped caring what people thought.
Then what happened? Only good things.
People fail. They go broke and stumble upon hopelessness. Then follows depression and impulsive attitude to not to think about anything else except for failure.
Over thinking will make you sick and then the body will break down and recovery becomes even hard.
Ask again. Does failure teach anything?
I’ve aspired for a lot of things. Some worked, most didn’t. Over the upcoming years, I plan to solve many hard problems. Maybe that’s not my best. Maybe I should try again. I should revise my approach and then try again like a stubborn two years old kid.
I’ve made a knot. I have tried to give up from life. I have cried. I have wished I were long dead.
But then I started to ask.
I should stop thinking about failure and work at my best potential.
There are Lots of questions and lots of learning I need to do.
And hopefully, I will. GLADLY I am still alive.
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